Someone Please Tell Me…
…how the hell do you write a eulogy for your Dad?
I have no idea where to start.
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March 11th, 2009 at 10:04 am
There is no need to say anything but good — any laughter, fun, cheer, lessons, smiles.
March 11th, 2009 at 1:25 pm
So, so, sorry for your loss.
My Mom passed 11/02, then my Dad 8/06 – not even 4 years apart. Both were young, by today’s life standards.
Remembering the his essence, his spirit, and the gifts he gave you. This will help you and the others at his memorial.
I know you are numb right now. Time really does heal.
March 11th, 2009 at 4:11 pm
If it were me, I would start with the facts, the details, the mundane… to help me get going, then fill that outline in with memories, lessons and the things you will miss.
March 11th, 2009 at 5:16 pm
there is no way you could ever say everything you wanted to say, Close your eyes and paint a picture in words of who your dad was to you, for the people who did not know him the same way.
I like Lisa’s outline: essence, spirit and gifts of himself.
March 11th, 2009 at 9:39 pm
Tell them a story about this man you know…
March 11th, 2009 at 10:40 pm
Funny stories and life lessons learned. Those are the two things that make any eulogy memorable. Think about it like you’re doing it for yourself, not for anyone else. Everyone else in the room will relate like you would not believe.
March 11th, 2009 at 11:32 pm
In many ways, you’ve said it all already….look back through this blog…through your thoughts…through your heart. The words are all there…and they are begging to come out.
March 12th, 2009 at 6:16 am
Eulogies are generally made up of ‘thank you’s’ (to the person you are eulogizing) and ’stuff I wish you knew’ (about the person being Eulogized.
Even if you had the opportunity (and took it) to say thank you for everything your father gave/taught you in life…this is a very therapeutic opportunity to recap and make sure you didn’t miss anything.
And as his daughter, there are countless things I’m sure you wish others (who didn’t know him so intimately) knew about him. again, a very therapeutic exercise.
All in all, eulogies are therapy for the person doing the speaking/writing… but are meant to bring others into your world and to help them understand your loss.
March 12th, 2009 at 8:50 am
Thank you all -Trep, your description is really excellent- for the thoughts. I think I have an idea, now. It will definitely be therapy… even though it hurts, it will heal.